How to Avoid the Validation Trap


trophy“You need to love yourself and be yourself one hundred percent before you can actually love someone else.” ~Christina Perri

1. Accept your susceptibility
We are most likely going to be caught in the validation trap when thinking we are not vulnerable to it. Each of us are susceptible to needing external validation. If you are reading this and thinking, “No way not me,” all I can say is, yeah right. We all like to be recognized. We all like to feel significant.

2. Understand where the craving comes from
If you had parents who nurtured you unconditionally and you developed an uncommon sense of security, I envy you. Most of us were not dealt such circumstances. Most of us had parents who did the best they could even though their best wasn’t very good. If we did not receive the validation we needed as children, how can we expect not to want to…

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